In my blog on Nov 9th, I discussed the end-stage dementia issues and raised the question ‘Is dementia a terminal illness?’ When faced with terminal illness, seniors and their caregivers often choose palliative care. Today, I’ll discuss that further.
What is a terminal condition?
In most states, a terminal condition is a status that is incurable or irreversible, and in which death will occur within a short time. There is not a precise, universally accepted definition of “a short time,” but in general it is considered to be less than one year. When looking at the hospice benefit, it will define “short term” as six months or less.
What is palliative care?
Palliative care is a comprehensive approach to treating serious illness that focuses on the physical, psychological, spiritual, and existential needs of the patient. Its goal is to achieve the best quality of life available to the patient by relieving suffering, by controlling pain and symptoms, and by enabling the patient to achieve maximum functional capacity. Respect for the patient’s culture, beliefs, and values are essential components. Palliative care is sometimes called comfort care or hospice type care.
For more information: go to Caring Connections which is a program of the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO), is a national consumer and community engagement initiative to improve care at the end of life, supported by a grant from The Robert Wood Johnson Foundation. Caregivers and seniors can find them online at www.caringinfo.org.
Caregivers and seniors can also visit the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO) home page at http://www.nhpco.org/templates/1/homepage.cfm.
ever seen the Golden Gate Bridge” or “Give every player a penny if they have blue eyes. “ There was a lot of laughter as pennies were lost and gained. To be honest there was some confusion too. One player drew a card – “Take a penny if you have ever visited New York City,” but could not remember if she had been to NYC or not. This is when my Mother shined. For her response was “I bet you have, you should take a penny.”
became a good time to reorganize and go through the apartment contents to ensure that we moved the items she was currently using or had sentimental value. I thought this would be a relatively easy task, but I couldn’t have been more wrong. As I began the process of packing, I soon found items in strange places. For example, I found a set of silverware in my Mother’s dresser, framed family pictures in her purse and a shopping bag with shoes, figurines, and greeting cards behind the couch. I also learned to look through everything, such as old purses and jacket pockets, to make sure I didn’t give away anything important – and it’s probably wise for other caregivers to do the same. For example, I found my Mother’s Medicare card innocently wrapped in a scarf at the back of a dresser drawer.




My Mother has lived in an Assisted Living facility for almost two years. In many ways she has adapted well and I think she is comforted by the fact that I live nearby. However, as her Alzheimer Disease progresses, I often hear “I want to go home.” In talking with others, I’ve learned that this is quite common... yet hearing it tears at the heart of every caregiver I know.
George Slater