Assisted Living Indianapolis

My Mother has lived in an Assisted Living facility for almost two years.  In many ways she has adapted well and I think she is comforted by the fact that I live nearby.  However, as her Alzheimer Disease progresses, I often hear “I want to go home.”  In talking with others, I’ve learned that this is quite common... yet hearing it tears at the heart of every caregiver I know. 

Following are some tips you may find helpful when the senior in your life tells you repeatedly:    “I want to go home.”

• Remember that it is very common for a senior to repeat this request often.  Usually they mean the home from 60 or 70 years ago, not the one they left most recently.
• “Home” means different things to different people – love, security, belonging, safety.  When a senior asks to “go home,” try to determine if there is an “unmet” need (i.e. need to feel safe, need to belong) and try to fill that as best you can.
• Don’t refer to the senior’s current location as home.  Point out that they are staying there for “awhile.”  When they say “I want to go home” tell them you will talk about it and name some future date.
• Find a good reason for them to stay where they are – i.e. people are nice, good food, close to family, nice apartment, fun activities and try to get them to “buy into it.”