When I became a stepmother to my then 7 year old stepson, it was easy to find people to turn to for advice.  For I lived in the midst of a community of  mothers……in my neighborhood, at work and at church.  These built-in communities provided support and guidance as I assumed the joyous role of being a Mom to a precious little boy named Michael.  That was 20 years ago and the friendships I made with those other Moms still exist. Today,  we continue to share stories about our “children,” but have excitedly expanded the conversation to include “grandchildren” and the happiness we experience as we watch our children become parents. 

As a caregiver for a parent, I find this type of community missing in my life.  There is not a natural group of people, who are caring for their parents, as readily available to talk with and exchange experiences.  Some organizations, such as the Alzheimer’s Association, offer support groups that do wonderful work.  But it is not the same as simply walking out the front door anymore.  The fact is that caring for children is much more common than caring for parents…..or at the very least…..more frequently discussed.   

I’ve found that I need to actively seek out support and this has come from many different sources.  I frequently browse the eldercare section at my local Barnes and Noble.  I talk to my RN friends and co-workers.  I subscribe to the Alzheimer’s e-newsletter.   But the outpouring of support that comes so naturally when caring for children at the beginning of life is rather hard to find when caring for parents at the end of life.

Recognizing that a lack of community and support is a common occurrence among senior caregivers, my company recently established an on-line complimentary “Caregiving Community” to provide answers to difficult caregiving questions.  The goal is to provide assistance and support to adult children who are worried or concerned about their parents.   Each month, My Health Care Manager will send members of the “Caregiving Community” an e-mail update which will focus on common caregiving concerns and practical solutions in a quick, easy to read, question and answer format.   The first issue tackled the following:  “Dad’s car has new scratches and dents.  Is it time to take the keys away?” 

I’d like to personally invite you to join the “Caregiving Community.”  Its goal is to help you….help your parents.  Please click here to join the “Caregiving Community”.  I also encourage you to e-mail your questions to CaregivingCommunity@MyHealthCareManager.com.  These will be addressed in a future issue.  Rest assured, your e-mail address will not be shared with any other organization.