Baby Boomers, like me, are often referred to as the Sandwich Generation.  We often find ourselves caring for children and caring for parents at the same time.  In my case, my child is grown, so I don’t experience this on a daily basis, just once in awhile.

Several weeks ago I became a Grandmother to beautiful Ava Lane.  A precious baby, born in Washington DC, my son and daughter- in-law’s first child.  I eagerly made plans for my first “Grandmother Visit” …..one that will be oft repeated in the months and years to come.  I called USAIR, scheduled time off from work and bought lots of cute, pink baby clothes.  But making a trip to DC meant leaving my Mother “on her own” in Indianapolis.  Not that she is really on her own, as she lives in an Assisted Living facility, but it did mean I wouldn’t see her for a week.   This made me uncomfortable, as I typically see her several times per week.  I truly did feel like a sandwich then – being cut in half!!

Thankfully, I have a caregiving support network in place which allowed me to make the trip without worry.  I made arrangements for my Mother’s Geriatric Care Manager to visit and call while I was away.  Additionally, the companion stopped in twice in my absence and a good friend made a visit too.   I was fortunate to be able to enjoy a joyous time with my family, knowing that I had “people on the ground” in Indianapolis to look out for my Mother and who could be available in case of an emergency.  My peace of mind was greatly enhanced by their assistance.

I encourage everyone to establish a caregiving support network.  It is just not possible to go it alone.  I returned from my “Grandmother” trip refreshed and happy and know that by taking good care of myself, I’m better able to care for my Mother.